I LOVE a wood burning stove. This is the closest I can get right now. One of my uncles gave this to me years ago and I now have it adorning my porch. Trent had the idea to put red and orange Christmas lights in it for an outside holiday decoration. Now when we decorate the outside of the house for Christmas we put wood in there and intertwine the lights and it looks kind of like fire.
I just love the warmth of a fire. I don’t mind the mess. I don’t mind hauling in the wood. It is all worth it to me to see that fire burning, making the room warm and cozy and inviting.
Can you imagine that being your only source of heat? My mother’s people lived in the country in what she now refers to as shacks. They had wide cracks in the floors and she says you could see the chickens running underneath the house.
Mother says that their first job as children at the ripe old age of three was to fill the chip pan. You had to have chips, kindling and wood for the fire. They would “graduate” to kindling as they got older, then to bringing in the wood.
At six they were in the fields for the day! One of them told me they were full-time field hands at this age. Stupidly, I asked “Were you out there all day?” and he indignantly answered me “What do you think full time means?” They went out in the mornings, worked till lunch, ate, then headed back out till dark. He said you did not question it ~ you just did it! (And our children whine about taking out the trash!)
I believe if today’s generation or even my generation had to live one day like they did we would be forever grateful for what all we have today. I heard a preacher say one time that we have all these time saving conveniences but still have no time.
I’m learning that we have no time because we overextend ourselves. I catch myself doing too many little jobs. None are hard, none are too much in themselves; but when you add them all together it overwhelms me. I have just realized this as I’ve once again done this to myself, therefore I’ve done it to my family so I have reassessed what is “needful” and have pared down to the basics ONCE AGAIN.
I have to do this periodically. When I can’t get supper on the table; when I’m too tired to think about my home; when I’m ill at the people living with me for no good reason, I’m obviously doing too much outside my home. One lady said, if we could just get out of the car, we’d be amazed at what we could accomplish at home. We could get past the basics of housecleaning and enjoy our homes and our families the way they should be enjoyed.
Here’s what I am seeing as I’ve lightened my load. My mind is clearer to “think” about my crew around here. As I took Mother to two doctor appointments on Thursday, I was not stressed but grateful to be the one to take her. I was thinking about nothing other than her! It was great! We finished and came home. I wasn’t scattered in a thousand different directions in my mind.
My gracious, how did I get off on that. I’m on a rant here:) Sorry! I’m almost done:)
I think women tend to put too much on ourselves cause we feel bad or guilty or we’re trying to be helpful or whatever but here’s your permission. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SAY NO! You can say it ~ it’s fine. Nobody else is crawling in your bed at night at the end of the day. It’s you who is exhausted! They are not living your life. You are! Soo they may have a need but they will find somebody else to fill it and they will be fine.
Ask God to show you how to keep the main thing the main thing! Ask Him to give you eyes to see what is truly important…to see what can be left off. You will be amazed what this does for your mental health! I’m done now!
Talk to ya later:)
Posted on November 19th 2009 in Uncategorized